Man's timid heart is bursting with the things he must not say,
For the Woman that God gave him isn't his to give away;
But when hunter meets with husbands,
each confirms the other's tale
The female of the species is more deadly than the male.
Rudyard Kipling
The Female of The Species.
One of my favorite poems is The Female of The Species by Rudyard Kipling, he spoke of different species in the animal kingdom and yes he spoke about us human beings too. I am inclined to agree with him, however I'd much rather state that the female of the species can be more deadly that the male. Why do I say this? In my view, in the age long battle of the sexes men have won by using brute force whilst women have had to compensate by putting their wit to good use. Nigerian society is patriarchal, and the men are generally smothered by women and brought up to believe that the world belongs to them. They are typically testosterone driven, competitive, macho and very childish creatures. They pride themselves on the number of women they can bed and do not bother to take a peek behind the curtain that separates men from women. Fellas if you consider yourself a player, i suggest you think deeply about this statement I was told age seventeen by a close female friend of mine, she said: "who is the player?" "Is it the person who convinces himself that he is smarter that everyone else or the person that keeps quiet, observes and proves that he is smarter?"
What brought this about? My friend lost her virginity to her considerably much older boyfriend, she was head over heels in love with him and was convinced that one day he would marry her. The dude in question fancied himself as a bit of a player, he slept with a few of her friends behind her back and was extremely smug about it. She eventually found out, and rather than lose her head about it, she kept quiet and schemed to bring him down a notch or two. My friend was very cerebral, what we had in common was that we both saw things a little differently that most other people. She slept with each and everyone of his close friends, she somehow manage to convince them that it was them that she actually loved and her boyfriend was mistreating her. so manipulative and convincing she was that they took the bait hook, line, and sinker. At social gatherings, she would sit there in their midst and they were all non the wiser. Eventually when she tired of them she moved on and till date i have no idea if they ever found out what went on or not.
The moral of the story is that women are a little more cunning than we are, hence i don't rock the boat. I give them their due and try my possible best not to view the world from the typical male standpoint. I must say, things are never quite what they seem.
19 comments:
question: what happened to the rest of your strange encounters... interesting series u have here...
I have one more actually, was going to write about it, but I left blogger for a while.
I was hoping you would write about the rich women chasing younger men today!(yes, I am into the series now!), yeah, this is true, we can be vicious at times and are known for "long term" revenge plans.
Interesting.
I always think to myself how is it that men cannot see.
These same men that go around patting themselves
on the back for being a 'player'
Do they think they have never been played before?
Some of these so called playas cheating on their
women never stop to think of what it implies if the woman they are cheating with is cheating on someone else?
The implication that their girlfriends are no different to the woman they are cheating with?
Herein lies the difference between men and women: Women know this when they cheat whereas men delude themselves to thinking that one day they will hang up their playa shirt and settle with the mythical good girl.
Mr Boorish. youn are indeed very perceptive. The patriachal nature of Nigeria is very stifling for a lot of women so they do overcompensate in developing extreme cunning. I think more men should open up their minds and begin to think like you but it's a self perpetuating cycle because even women have bought into it and raise their sons to develop this same sense of entitlement which they despise. Something's gotta give
Lol, I definitely agree with this, women are more cunning than men ... to be honest, I think it's because we're smarter (but that might just be the feminist in me speaking).
But I have to say, I'm really not sure what your friend gained from sleeping with all her cheating boyfriend's friends...
nope bloggers in nigeria dont have to sing, just vote and participate. I think bloggers resident in nigeria cant sing coz of the international fone call bill. There a voicemsg thing installed, see one on my page or pinky's.ta
u don dey give woman too much hand o... which ones now? u no say part of u na Bini o... e be like say we go set meeting with Oba for palace o...LOL
@ Waffarian:
I have had a few experiences with rich women trying to buy my booty (lol). Glad you are into the series, will write it soon. yes it is true that Women are a rather vengefull lot (Nigerian women especially)I have almost given up totally on the whole relationship thing. Maybe I should just become a full time gigolo. ;-)
@Little girl lost:
I am of the impression that Nigerian society affords the men the opportunity not to grow up completely. I have a great deal of aquantances, more than I can deal with but I have only very few friends. The Nigerian mentallity is very dissapointing (both men and women)
@anonymous:
We are definitely on the same page, this whole society is a joke. Very primitive and pathetic in so many ways. For me I have my doubts if I will raise my children here, there is a better way of life (thank God I've seen it).
@Vickii:
No women arent smarter, they have simply been beaten into the background. I hope you realise that the present staus quo has not always been the case, the lot of women changed 2,000 years ago apparently. But that is a topic for another day. Vickii if you say that women are smarter, what makes you any different from the dudes i blogged about? Would that way of thought only leave you vulnerable to a surprise at some point? Think about it.
As for my friend, it was just a way of proving to him that there are no fools in this world. He definitely would have found out about it, and when he did she was already long gone. Sweet revenge.... Lol!
@oldfan
No be say I dey give the too much props, I just dey talk say; man, woman all na the same. Na only the equipment wey dey different.....
;-)
Hmmmmm.
I think women are generally smarter than men...but of course, this is not always the case. I'm not sure about how I feel about your friend who slept with all her boyfriend's friends to get back @ him.
Here's how I personally feel about sex: As a woman, I believe that every man who 'enters' me leaves a print - mental, physical, emotional or all of the above. My point is that I do not want prints left inside me. I know I should never say never, but I can never ever ever use sex to get back @ anyone. No way. I'll feel stupid @ the end. I mean, do I really win?? I cannot bear the fact that several men out there have left prints inside me...noooo! Just plain uncomfortable.
But hey, to each his own, right?
But yeah, women are more cunning. I remember this ex boy (then bf) of mine who used to lie thru his teeth; I always knew, but I never told him I did. I just let him lie, and then I'll call my friends and tell them...and then we'll laugh @ his expense. If only he knew...
i love this series, each one different but linked in a way. a lot of rich older women love young studs o. be aware.lol. na the equipment different. nice one
Im not sure if I would have handled it that way, but then each to their own. insightful series you have here, I wonder what more you have in stock!!
Well I don't think tht was the solution, she could have found a more cunning way to get back at him i think. At the end of the day she gained nothing so depends on the way you look at it I guess. Mr Boor how u dey? Vote for TMIX lol!!!
@Taurean Minx:
Hey how is it going? My friend is an interesting character isnt she?
@Life of a stranger:
Each to their own....
I guess all the man did was give her an excuse for doing what she always wanted to do.
@Last King of scotland:
How is it going?
@Vera:
Whats up?
Sleeping with all his friends? Not sure if that's good revenge...
@Uzo:
I dont condone what she did, but hey she has her way of viewing it.
WOULD HAVE GIVEN MY GIRL THE PAT ON THE BACK IF ONLY I DONT THNK THT SHE MIGHT LOST A BIT OF HER SOUL IN THE PROCESS OF THE REVENGE, I MEAN MEANINGLESS SEX WITH PEOPLE THT U DNT EVN FIND THT ATTRACTIVE JUST BECOS THEY BELONG TO HIOS CYCLE OF FRIENDS AND SHE NEEDED TO TAKE REVENGE, I DNT C THT AS THE ULTIMATE REVENGE COS SHE LOST A BIT OF HER "SOUL" DURING THE PROCESS, MIGHT BE WRONG FOR WOMEN SLEEPING WITH MEN U DONT FANCY EVN FOR THE ARISTO CHIC ROBS U OF SOMETHING I CANT QUITE DESCRIBE OR PUT MY FINGER TO,BOORISH OR ANYONE FOR THT MATA CAN U HELP ME OUT HERE?.......
To illustrate your point I'll tell you this short story.
I was in one of the popular Lagos salons the other day tweaking the Mocha-hotness ('nother story, 'nother day) and there were 2 girls working on what looked like a MSW's (mature single woman) hair.
What drew my attention was one of the two girls urging the other to do something in fierce whispers in Igbo.
The MSW obviously tired of the saliva droplets drizzling her face asked exasperatedly "O gini??"
The hair-whisperer proceeded to give her the gist of how the other girl had offended the stand-in manager who had a chip on his shoulder and was stubbornly refusing to apologize. She said she'd been urging her to go placate him so he didnt do"show her". The stubborn goat was a particularly fiesty babe who adamantly refused to apologise to the "Ewu" because she had nithing wrong which the other girl actually confirmed.
So MSW turns to the stubborn goat, peers at her intently and lowers her gold encrusted hand between her legs palm down saying simply "my dear, you stoop to conquer..go and apologize"
Makes you thankful you aren't on the recieving end of THAT logic dunnit?
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