Sex and The Single Bloke Part 4

I have noticed that in Naija guys make a strict distinction between the good girls and the bad girls, I have tried my best to come to terms with the grounds on which this distinction is made. I have realised that more often than not the guys ought to open their eyes a little. How can they equate a girl that has had her share of boyfriends with a girl that goes to the clubs selling her booty for money? How can they equate a girl that explored when she was young with a total and complete shag merchant, to whom sex is nothing but an act and you might as well shake her hand? I place no premium on a woman’s supposed virtue, I strongly believe that a woman’s virtue is mans greatest invention. So dudes, kindly refrain from calling her a hoe, a hoe is a woman whose story you just happen to know a thing or two about. Have you ever stopped to think that maybe this woman you have chosen to malign might just have been one you would have regarded had it not been that she played around in your social group? Maybe your own girlfriend or wife might have been some others dudes “hoe” at some point. I keep hearing guys come up with hair brained statements such as “my girl isn’t a hoe because she made me wait”, “she is decent because I worked hard for her”. What rubbish, a woman is free to sleep with whoever she chooses, just because she made you wait doesn’t mean that she lives her life that way, it could mean that you weren’t her spec and she just kept you around because she enjoyed the attention. Maybe all the while you were texting and calling she was giving it up to the dudes that she felt were more befitting of her. If you do end up with her and you two are happy, why should it matter to you if she was gaining life’s experience elsewhere?


The main problem a lot of guys have is that they are egotistical about sex and they tend to place certain women on a pedestal and choose to malign others. More often than not, these guys are not willing to accept that their wives might not be the creatures that they want them to be. A lot of the women that I know whose men view them as such are unfulfilled both sexually and emotionally, because they feel pressured into constantly playing up to this image that their husbands have of them. A female friend told me of a friend of hers who got married to a born again Christian. After six months of having sex in the missionary position, she tried to vary things a little, unfortunately her husband nearly had a heart attack. He called her a “wanton woman” and took her for spiritual counseling. Maybe the woman you love might be submissive and would love you to dominate her sometime, does that make her any less decent? Maybe she likes things a little kinky, maybe she likes sex with different people. Who are we to judge her? We are all guilty of the same thing.


Why insult a woman that chooses to express herself and explore her sexuality? Have you ever stopped to think that your innocent girlfriend might just be repressing her inner freak, and might just sleep with that good looking cool dude at the club if he so much as spits in her direction? People are people, women are women and men are men. If you call her a hoe, you might just be insulting yourself, your mom, your sister and your wife. She is who she is, just a person. We are all hoes in some way, shape or form…… Let them live.