LADIES........
Like it or lump it, the truth is that there exists a hierarchy amongst the races of this world. We are all aware of the economic benefits of being of a certain race, however in relationships such a hierarchy exists. Whist at university, the majority of the Nigerian women would bend over backwards to have a european on their arm, they would spend hours comparing notes on what their experiences were and would make plans on how to add more to their lists. They would debase, degrade, and display a level of desperation that shocked even me (and this is me, that has been exposed to a fair amount of strange human behaviour).
I was in the refectory once, and a Nigerian girl rushed in, hurried over to her friends and said:
"GIRLS LETS MOVE, THE GREEK GUYS ARE AT THE PEN & WIG PUB"!!!
The girls rushed into the loo, put their faces on and were seen at the pub chasing after these men, and leaving with groups of them at the end of the evening. Hey! i am all for freedom and expressing ones self as one pleases, but these same girls began treating the Nigerian guys with disdain.
The next day my Greek friend said to me:
"I WILL NEVER F**K A NIGERIAN GIRL AGAIN,
THEY HAVE BIG GAPING P****Y".
I remember seeing a video of three Nigerian girls getting
gang banged by a room full of
onyibo boys, yet these girls would front and make any
Nigerian guy that approached them sweat and prove himself to her before even listening to him.
Case 2:
Whist at boarding school there was a girl, with an extermely large posterior. Man, that girl had booty like I had never seen! She was the German boys party favour (she shagged them all)and made no bones about it. She didn't have a problem with them smacking her on the butt in full view of everyone, she was proud to have them treat her in that was. However when a Nigerian guy that happened to like her a lot attempted to hold her hand, she cussed him out. Much to the amusement of her German boys (they were nice guys and were constantly telling us about how much of a freak that she was.). Once we were in a club and one of the German lads pulled her over to us in disgust and told her off for being racist. Why? Simply because she told him that she would never touch a black man. He washed her down, stormed off and this woman had the audacity to look at us from head to toe, hiss, and stroll off to beg her man for forgiveness.
I would love to get a Nigerian woman's view on this matter, in my view there is only one race and that is the human race, I believe that we all should respect and one another as EQUALS, the hierarchy exists only in our minds, be free and just live.
The partner you are with is not a crutch (pardon the pun) or a status symbol.....................
Just a person.
44 comments:
ok dat doz it boor; u need 2 change d folks u hang wit man! HABA! Just kidding... As my aunt says, all na slavery mentality. To ban ya own race na transparent self hatred.
U asked 4 a naija women's perspective & i gotta admit, i don't get it. I understand curiosity and dat our generation has more freedom in exploring all sorts of "adventures". I remember an uncle of mine saying dat when he gat 2 England in the 60's ,the bruthas where in a race 2 conquer as many --insert naughty word 4 d oyibo variety here-- they could "land". So i guess some babes must be feeling d same empowerment now.
Maybe,dissing their fellow bruthas is their way of saying "it ain't all bout u anymore". Really, i don't know. Am just making it up as i go along.This i know - being treated like an object iz part of eradicating d soul.D slave masters sure perfected the process.Now,why will i want 2 continue it wit my own hand? ppl can be foolish sha!
ps. Still thinking bout pt 15. will go back 2 comment
Going by your second paragraph.....
When will young Nigerian women learn, the image they project will determine the way they are treated. If you debase yourself expect to be treated like ****.
God bless us all.
Hmmmmm........I'm just going to go out on a limb here & say that maybe, just maybe she figured it was 'safer' to whore it with a non-Nigerian. That way, when she's good & ready to settle down with a Nigerian guy, he won't necessarily be privy to her history. A shame all around. We all need to honour & respect our bodies.
It really irks me when I hear black girls say "I don't do black guys". Like, WTF? It's okay to be attracted to what u are attracted to, but when u eliminate a race for all the wrong reasons, then you need to check urself.
Hmm.......
I have had friends like the ones you described.
All of us black gyals, most of us Nigerians, schooled or lived where they were not too many black boys, you feel me.
So we made do with what was on "display" which were white boys who always had a craving for the "exotic"
I had friends who had self esteem issues, because the black boys they wanted did not want them, instead wanted their white mate with blonde hair and blue eyes and pancake nyash..
They did not want a girl who fixes weaveon, has some booty on her and not the right color should i add.
So the black girls just decided to date white boys and then the hatred started.
My friend said to me once that she would never date a brown man, yep she did, why because she went out with a Nigerian guy and he totally dissed her mehn, from then she vowed, nothing oh....
Another Nigerian girlfriend of mine said she would never date an African man cause they are disgusting she only dates Jamaicans or white men, if you come and talk to her with an "accent" she will rubbish you.
Then lets not even talk about the black boys. especially the nigerians... I personally have experienced disrespect.
I was in the club with a couple of mates, u know the usual club scene and we were looking for a place to stand, so we see a free spot we go there, unbeknown to us, the nigerian guy we stood next to, did not like black girls, so i felt daggers on me, and i looked up and saw this nigerian guy we see around giving me a look with so much hatred, looked me up and down and walked away like we were shit. I was like whoa! Next thing we knew, we saw him with an onyibo girl, grinding and kissing her, practically having sex with her on the floor and he kept gazing at us with this look of triumph, like "u will never be in this spot"
We just laughed at him and murmured to ourselves, hmm he dont know that he is only a dick to her.....
I am not advocating these girls, cause i know that sometimes its circumstance or just plain foolishness that make our girls behave that way and as ms prissy said its safer for nigerian girls cause you know we are all about the hypocrisy
Come one have you not heard- don't shit on your own back door its bad for business...
Besides to each his own, you think the ones in the UK are bad.... Go to Europe and you will see Nigerian girls in action.
Sorry for the long comment
first boor, where exactly did u school? it beats me how those Nigerian girls behaved. i mean, i dont even have words for it. so they preferred to be treated like whores just to be associated with the whites? for what? i mean where is the self esteem in that or superiority over blacks? i am surprised you lot even bothered with them, people like that should not be given the time of day.
it would have been ok if they honoured themselves and mingled with everybody both black and white, without having to look down on d one or de-grade themselves with the other.
what is so special about the white guys, do they have better sex with them? i refuse to believe that a bunch of them are not even circumcised for starters.
well i am disgusted by all of these, i dont have any more to say, otherwise i probably will go on forever.
Hmmm...I have never had friends like that, to be honest. If anything it was the exact opposite. So that in the past if I ever 'went out with' someone white, I wouldn't necessarily volunteer that info unless it came up, somehow. If I were drunk or something. And that only if it were significantly mind blowing/important.
However, I support Ibilola. It's all self-hatred. Love yourself, love the brothas. Brothas need love too.
Ide.
Well, this topic. Let me just say, a good man is hard to find, black, white or brown. Na the same tory. I have dated both white and black and all this shit about race is overated. If you are lucky, you end up with a person that will respect you and treat you right, bad luck and you can end up with a serious asshole, black or white.
As for the "post-colonial" mentality, that one na another tory altogether, just read Bhaba Holmi or Franz Fanon. I no get time to dey explain all that.
@nneka's world: UK is part of Europe, did you mean other parts of Europe? or a certain part? I did not get that last part.
Mr Boor, very interesting one. All I can say is from what I have observed being at university or when I went to visit friends who were at university outside London, it was a very common trend to see Nigerian men getting with onyibo women especially those of the spanish or latin american variety and shunning Nigerian women, which was quite upsetting. I and my friends used to wonder if there was anything the matter with us, were we not as attractive as our fellow women,putting race aside after all we all share the same sex/gender. Shouldn't the attraction be based on our character on the whole not our nationality or the colour of our skin? This prompted me to ask a male friend why this was the case and he said that Nigerian women were too much hard work to date and that the onyibos girls were easier to handle or have fun with.I laughed and shook my head, thinking about all the wonderful Nigerian women these guys could be enjoying a relationship with.
Going back to your post regarding these women who only go after onyibo men, for some, it might be a preference, others a cultural experience but for a select group of women it could be a way of getting back at the Nigerian guys who shunned them to get with onyibo women.
nb: Good post by the way ;)
Personally, I have no issues with interracial dating.
I go to a black school. I also grew up with two lecturer parents so the naija definition of fraternities (cults) is the yardstick by which i judge greeks. White greeks are only known for getting drunk and ending up on youtube.
I don't think the average Naija girl with class necessarily goes seeking a white guy. They end up with whomsoever the end up with.
I am sorry o but what about naija guys that would rather date a white chick even though her "assets" are non existent and she looks and thinks like a thumb....?
CATWALQ ACADEMIE IV IS HERE!!!!
someone needs to write the other side of these series. The unbaised Sex and the Single Chick cos this is so one sided.
@miss prissy:
I guess some of these girls grew up watching a little too much Sex and the city. Is it truly empowerment? People have been screwing each other since the begining of time. People are silly.
@Nneka:
Oya spill the beans, which parts of Europe? I need to go and conduct some errm.....
Research. Lol!!!
@Lighty, I will e-mail you where I schooled, if I say it, know some people will definitely guess who I am. It was in the UK.
@ide:
People are bloody thoughtless. May God bless them.
@Waffi:
As usual we are on the same page, I read Fannon and tthe man changed my life.
@Nia:
In my case I became very weary of Nigerian girls, I felt: "Why should I work hard to get a woman that would cheapen herself to such a great extent."
@Catwalq:
You are only too right......
Going to read it now.....
How about the other Nigerian girls who didn't cheapen themselves to that extent..
@nonsuch:
I am not castigating the women for being shag merchants....
I was a shag merchat at some point as well. I simply have a problem with the fact that these women stopped associating with their own. That is all.
@nia:
Is it cheapening per se? I have no problem with the shagging. Hey everyone does it. My problem is with what they were pepared to to to get these men in bed.
omigosh! I need to go through all your series, and comment on all of them!
first, I won't even defend these girls- but then its not about the girls, its about people in general. why do u think almost everyone wants to leave naija and "travel abroad"?
I have male friends, who would be visibly salivating over akata chicks- visibly. Traitors, I call them. They would do anything just to "bone" an akata babe. what's the difference?
There's a trend I've noticed. In jand, a lot of nigerian girls want to date European dudes, but in yankee, Nigerian guys want to do non-nigerian girls. Akata babes feel like Nigerian guys are the next best thing since sliced bread.
In Nigeria, it could be because these girls believe they have money.
Anyhoo, I believe who you date should not have anything to do with race... Lie! I love me my naija guys, how will a non-naija guy understand about boarding school,lagos life, wicked seniors and all those other things I want to talk about? hey! that's just me!
frankly dude, change your friends... who are these crazy girls na?... infact i do not want to believe they exist... gash...i dont understand this scenario you have painted... adventrue i understand, fun loving or fun chasing i get but what has color got to do with anything... everybody craps... whether you are black, white, red or blue... i dont even want to get started on this colour issue... there are about 13 nationalities in my very international class... your truelly the only nigerian, only black in fact and frankly it doesn't change a thing.. if there is any difference i have not noticed... i have met cute,fascinating boys - british, greek, turkish, jewish etc...and cuter nigerian boys... as i have met one or two irritating ones from these countries too... colour or race has nothing to do with these things... i am totally disgusting that these girls even exist... pshew...
To go out of your way to despise your race shows your low self esteem... they must hate themselves for being black... what a shame
black, red, blue, white, yellow people... we've all got red blood...
@waffy, yeah i know uk is part of Europe, but you know we that live in the Uk, we think that Europe is another continent away.
What i meant to say was other parts of Europe.
@boor-Spain-what i saw there broke my heart.....
Germany we were held by immigration cause they thought that 3 black girls were coming to you know prostitute our selves....
If you read ugo's blog he blogged about this as well.
Its a common occurrence
Boor,If that is the case I can understand your point. But what is your view on the Nigerian guys who shunned Nigerian girls whilst at uni/school to go out with onyibo chicks based on the fact most of the time, that they wanted to score easily with no questions asked and it was always the latinas that they wanted(many thanks to MTV Base). To be honest with you, I believe this issue swings both ways.
i think she has a complex, Honestly why else would any woman feel that the oyinbo guy shagging her is better than his black counterpart? Trust me, i bet u if u check her background, you will find that she grew up in ignorance , sorry to say that but that's it I think if u are brought up with the mentality that a white person is better than a black person then u are a pure illiterate.
Honestly i really don't think it is particular to the nigerian woman, nigerian men do that rubbish alot, I know alot of us must have come across some people like that at one point in time.
I think this has a lot to do with the person's mentality.
Simple
@bumight:
Race is not the issue, stupidity and ignorance is the problem.
@tyger, it is not the sex or what they did, it is simply that they felt that they had stepped up a notch by sleeping with these men.
@nneka:
That is so sad
@nia:
Once more, we are on the same page.
@lasgidi
True words...........
well i cant speak for all naija girls..only this one :) and this is what i have to say
* PUT THEIR FACES ON????? YOU R A JOKER!
* I DONT KNOW ABOUT THE REST OF THE STORY..I WOULD HAVE TOO MANY THINGS TO SAY ABOUT IT, A LOT OF IT MIGHT BE JUDGEMENTAL AND I HAVE LEARNT NOT TO JUDGE PEOPLE OR AT LEAST I TRY NOT TO JUDGE PEOPLE...
im creasing up at 'I WILL NEVER F**K A NIGERIAN GIRL AGAIN, THEY HAVE BIG GAPING P****Y". yee pa
@mimi:
I am not judging them, I am simply seekning an insight into the mind of the Nigerian woman so an to be able to rationalise their behaviour.
@Last King:
There is more that he said, there was a running joke that Nigeria must have a gangbang culture.
well not every nigerian woman sleeps around boorish so it might be hard to rationalise someone's behaviour unless it is the person ur talking to...
ur best bet, if u want to rationalise, would be to ask someone like that, 'why do u do wat u do?' maybe u'll get the truth then. cos honestly, all we'll do here is say ahhhhhhhhhhs, and uuuuuhhhhhhhhhhs, and how disgustings :)
i didnt say u were judging. i was refering to myself, i think i was makin a mental note to self.
I like greek men ;-)
@mimi:
I dont think sleeping around is a bad thing, I just dont like deciet. If you wanna play, play all that you want. Just dont lie and hurt anyone.
@jadedjune:
Were you at my university?
do I see a pt 17 anywhere in the nearest future?
In an ideal world, there would only be one race indeed as you mentioned but sadly, we live in the real world. I agree with Ms. Prissy in her observation about how certain girls, whore it up outside of the Nigerian race before settling down. I've heard the same coming from men. I went to a party on Labor Day and met a guy who approached me and wanted to "get to know me" because he didn't know I was Nigerian. He asked me my name and gave him my igbo name and he looked at me with absolute disbelief. I asked why the look of shock and he said he didn't really want to date too many Nigerian girls because it might get around that he wasn't serious. His dilemna was that he was in the phase of his life where he wanted to just hit and quit chicks and if he dissed a Nigerian broad, he'd never get a chance at settling down with one. I guess I get where he's coming from but there it is. That is the reality we live in.
I like your style of writing, great diction.
you can't base your opinions on a few experiences. i don't have any friends that behave that way, if anything, they have no attraction towards oyinbo men..unless they look like Brad... and we know he's an anomaly. lol.
Hmmm... from my experience, it is black men who bend wayyyy over backwards for white women... treat them much better et al. it's that slave mentality.
my dear, do we get an update any time soon?
thier many fishes in the sea...if she sexes only white guys then thats her perogative.im sure if ur game was tite enough ud bag that too
wharrafuck? which country do you live in....
they should all be killed for shaming us.
I personally have decided not to date a broke motherfucker,white,black or green.
um...yeah...problems...interracial dating is fine as long as it is sincere...as for the greek guy talking about not fucking a naija girl again because her pussy is gaping, hmmmnnn...he had better go and check the size of his penis...please...does he not know anything about anatomy...that doesn't really make that much sense unless your penis is very small and no matter the size of vagina, it will be gaping...i would advise him to keep that to himself...
...as a naijagirl, albeit born and raised in the us, i look for beauty in men...for marriage, i would prefer him to be nigerian or african, but i am open...but not to the point of demeaning naija guys...i try to do what i would want done to me...those naija girls must have some objective...strange all around...
Oy, Boorish, please don't tell me you're like the average joe who gives a chick a bit and she's looking for more and you leave her hanging. What gives? Please post something new, soon. A girl needs her fix, know what I'm sayin?
sir! an undated would be pleasing.
oya boor, hope notin? been dey wait Succubus gist.
Abi, u dey fight us or muse dey sabbatical?
All kidding aside, hope all is well.
Wow....just read your whole blog today at work....didnt even mind that my boss was aware that i did jack all.
I think you are a fantastic writter...i mean u got me intrigued from start to finish. I find you amusing!!....a bit biased towards yoursefl.. :o) but are'nt we all.
Im in love with this blog!!....please update soonest!!!
woow boooooooorr.. well back in the day when I was also at uni, most of the black guys I knew prefered white chicks / gay, and were raving all the time. So I guess my contribution is zilch to this story.
Well I guess everyones wxperiences are different.
What it do boy? Where u @? Y u AWOL?
Im glad to see youre back!
L
Hey handsome, can we get an update?
ALl I can say is it would be unfair to generalise
The issue here is quite sad
Don't have a problem with inter-racial dating or befriending other races...what I have a problem is is dissing your own race while you're at it. Truth is, it does not make them like you more...it only makes you look very stupid. This Naija chick in my class is engaged to this white guy and she has made it a point of duty to associate with only white guys. Many Naija in my class think she's fake but I only think she has issues! lol
I dated a white guy before but that never changed who i was...infact I was the president of the African Union while I was dating him...lol...thats coz it wasnt a color thing for me, it was a mutual likeness. I think its all in the mind and also how you see your self.
cld you like update.
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